Happy Valentine’s Day!
Before you click away, I’m not about to get all lovey-dovey with you. I do that enough on regular scheduled programming 😉 and after this post is complete, Harvey and I are going to don fresh pyjamas, play Monopoly all night and make homemade sourdough pizza.
Today, in celebration of Galentine’s Day that was yesterday, I wanted to dedicate a post to my best girls because I swear I don’t share just how much I appreciate them. Galentine’s Day is one of the best faux holidays on the marketing-ploys calendar. A day dedicated to celebrating the women in your life? Yes please. Whilst it’s been getting some flack recently, I don’t think we should shy away from the fact that a) Valentine’s is absolutely a Hallmark holiday, and as a total talking-in-antitheses b) so what if we want to dedicate entire days to celebrating great humans?
And what greater place to do so than on my beloved blog?
#1: They always listen to my rants and weird stories
Whether it’s my best friend from school (who’s getting married in 11 months!!) or the girls I met through blogging that I adopted as friends, I count my blessings every day that after a rough patch I can pick up the phone, drive over or turn to the WhatsApp group chat and rant for hours and hours without feeling ridiculous. Greeted often with a bottle of wine, the promise of our favourite takeaway and a sympathetic ear, my girls always have my back and are simply the reason that I am who I am today. I mean, who else is going to listen to me complain for the 10th time that week that I haven’t been paid? Or that the other day, I managed to step out of the gym shower with the towel on my head and not around my body? Y’know?
#2: … and offer excellent advice, however thinly veiled
If I’m seeking advice, I always turn to my girls first. Well, and my Mum, but if Mum doesn’t know then there really is no cure/answer 😉 They’re the ones who’ll listen intently and give you the time and space you need to wallow in your own, often ridiculous, thoughts and then shake you by the shoulders and give you advice. Solid advice. I often think there’s a dangerous train of thought in the ‘go with your gut’ or other generic advice that’s issued to us twenty-something women, but if you can rely on anybody, it’s your friends. My blogging Dream Team are a prime example of that: us six have been friends for more than six years now. And sometimes it’s awesome to have friends in different corners who can provide a neutral opinion.
#3: The Real Talk
We all need a friend who’ll tell us that ‘yes’ there is something stuck in our teeth and ‘no’ you probably shouldn’t treat yourself to a fourth pastel-coloured faux fur jacket. I wholeheartedly support the 2018 ‘do it for you’ mantra and having almost no prerequisite for justifying your decisions but not much beats a straight-talking friend who’ll save your ass before you even knew it needed saving.
#4: We all have our own roles in the squad
My girl gangs are great because somehow we’ve all adopted our own roles in the flock. It’s never forthrightly spoken about but we all know who the mother figure is, the one who’s a bit scatty at times, the one you can depend on for advice, the one who you can pester for an Instagram shoot, the one who always takes one for the team as driver on roadtrips, the one with advice for embarrassing situations, the one who kills it at work, the one who can’t take their gin… I could go on! What is it about friendship groups that mean the entire group will always end up working together to achieve Ultimate Girl Gang? I bloody love it.
#5: Everybody abides by ‘the unspoken agreement’
And by the unspoken agreement, I mean not ever having to worry about offending my friends by disappearances that last weeks or months. We’ve all made peace, as late twenty-somethings, with the fact that we’re all too busy to maintain several WhatsApp chats every single evening. Whether we chat daily, weekly, monthly or more sporadic than that, I always feel safe in the knowledge that my girls are right there when I need them and vice versa.