By now, I’m sure you’ve heard of Aziz Ansari, the man behind Master of None and he of Parks & Recreation fame. And if you haven’t, which rock have you been living under? I’ve recently become utterly obsessed with Ansari. I watched all of Master of None within a handful of days and it was easily the most relatable TV drama I’ve seen in a while. One for the multi-cultural millennial for sure!
Anyway, I just finished reading Modern Romance and thought it’d be the perfect time to share a little review. My tiny, tiny forays into blogging about dating and singledom on Daisybutter have always gone down well and this book encapsulates almost entirely my thoughts towards dating. I’d like to think I’m beyond playing mind games via the modern medium of text message but, apparently, even not playing games is a game in itself.
I’d heard much about Modern Romance from my well-meaning colleagues, who get to hear about my misguided endeavours every Monday. However, I had always pushed it aside as an embarrassing self-help book, as I’d never heard of Aziz Ansari around a month ago!
Far from being a dating guide, self-help book or even a celebrity memoir, Modern Romance is a witty, clever, well-researched and compulsive sociological look into the different facets of dating today and dating from the past. It’s also worth noting that I finished this in three(?) days and ended up downloading (and subsequently deleting) Tinder in the process.
How’s about that for modern romance?
Modern Romance romance is full of Ansari’s own thoughts on dating in the modern world. A world cluttered with technology; not only phone calls and text messages, but social media, read notifications, dating apps, online dating profiles and the wealth of opportunity out there. It discusses at length – guided by interesting, hard facts, interviews and focus groups – concepts like ‘why is the phone call so elusive?’ and how as millennials, we have almost too many opportunities available to us, something I covered briefly in a post here.
It’s a lengthy read but one that’s full of wise quips, genuinely hilarious anecdotes and plenty of reassuring facts and case studies. I couldn’t pick a favourite chapter if I tried. I found myself nodding along – laughing out loud, even! – to almost every page and particularly enjoyed a part about ‘whoever receives the last message bubble, wins!’ because, let’s face it, that’s the game we all play. I do think that I reached a level of realising that romance needs to leave your phone (even if they’re already your boyfriend/girlfriend!) to persist, but this is such an insightful and witty take on the phenomena of dating today in the age of Tinderella. He even covered some of the things on my To-Blog list – dammit… A definite must-read.