Life in 2021 is a lot of things. From succumbing to hours and hours of TikTok every night to flaunting your vaccination % status as a personality type, it’s safe to say that any and all semblance of the old normalcy has completely left us. It’s gone. Got that?
I recently heard someone mention that they would only be serving ‘main character energy’ from now on. I chuckled, thinking to myself: ‘What an odd turn of phrase!’
Call me a washed-up millennial or, worse, cheugy, but I’m just realising what a brilliant idea that is. Main character energy. Being the centre of my own story. Because, strange as it may be, I don’t think I’ve let myself feel that for a long, long time.
As with everything in life, it boils down to balance and a natural give-and-take. Isn’t it? It wasn’t until a few weeks ago, after a particularly painful yet productive counselling session, that I realised – or remembered – that I am the main character of my life’s story and that I’d better damn well start acting like it. Life isn’t a dress rehearsal. In fact, I don’t exist solely to propel forwards the stories of others, like some lonely underrepresented minority side character. (Oh wait… Yes, I went there.) As an empath and natural ‘carer’, I’m prone to casting all of my own needs and wants aside to ensure others get their best. I’ll nourish my partner, lavish gifts upon my friends, I’ve always got my brother and sister’s backs… But I realised that I’d neglected myself.
Main character energy is all about YOU. It’s about living life as though you’re in your favourite film and taking control of those beautiful small moments you notice when watching a comfort anime, or seizing bigger opportunities and stories, not letting life simply pass you by.
“You have to start romanticising your life, you have to start thinking of yourself as the main character, ‘cause if you don’t, life will continue to pass you by, and all the little things that make it so beautiful will continue to go unnoticed, so take a second and look around.”
And embracing my main character arc has been so much fun. I’m beginning to see that different seasons of life suit main or second character energies and vice versa. In this arc, for example, we’re taking ourselves on the dates that side characters promise and don’t execute, we’re prioritising our own needs and not we’re moulding ourselves into flimsy shell moulds of other people. Perhaps, yes, we’re often distracted by secondary plotlines and the darned second male leads, but main character energy is simply about centering yourself and learning to haphazardly navigate the often-dire filler storylines that the producers, or universe, send you.