It’s somewhat of a given that Sundays bring with them an extraordinary ability to make one doubt themselves and their entire existence. Sunday night blues are a very real, intangible thing and with one brewing as we speak, I thought I’d shift my usual footloose and fancy free Sundaze post style for the evening to discuss self-doubt and how we can kick that to the kerb with oomph.
I suppose it’s easy to spend a Sunday afternoon lounging in bed, blissfully scrolling through your phone and peeking through tiny square windows at curated versions of everybody else’s life. And I don’t know about you, but that bloody Instagram algorithm means that often on a lazy Sunday morning, I can be eating cold pizza (from a plate, at least) and only just seeing photos from somebody’s wild Friday night, making me feel more inadequate and quote-unquote boring than ever. I made peace a long time ago with my introvert tendencies and these scenarios rarely tend to bother me but on occasion, self-doubt kicks in.
The sheer slowness of Sunday gives us that extra moment too long to wonder what could have been from our weekend and week just gone. It’s a common human trait to feel self-doubt and niggling anxiety that we could’ve done better. And we will do better. We always do. Last Sunday, I couldn’t shake the feeling that I wasn’t good enough; I’d been given 12-hours notice of a client cancellation (my only one for the week and one that I’d shunted all Easter plans for), I felt overwhelmingly lonely as I tend to do when I haven’t Daisybf in a while, I hadn’t worked out in a while and had no plans for the week. Within seconds, my mind was in overdrive. Why didn’t the client want me? What is everybody else doing? Why are they having a better time than me? If only I could’ve planned my time better.
You’re only human. And you don’t have to prove yourself to anybody. You’re enough; you’re always enough.
If you’re beginning to feel the Sunday blues, pop some trainers on and escape for a while. Go for a short walk, 15 minutes will do, and breathe in some fresh air. Take deep, meaningful breaths. Sit down somewhere if you must. I find that getting myself out of the space where the Sunday blues set in really helps me to get ahold of my emotions.
I’ve mentioned on Twitter that one of my favourite Sunday activities is to find 10 minutes to grab my diary and plan my week ahead as best as I can. I strictly don’t look at my emails at the weekend unless it’s been agreed with a client that I’m on call or have an over-weekend deadline, so I almost always need to spend an extra bit of time on my diary on Monday mornings, but find the process of getting things down helps me to breathe a little more deeply on Sundays. I make to-do lists for each day, double-check appointments and errands, book my workout classes and WhatsApp/call friends to confirm our plans. It removes much of my anxieties around missing things and lets me enjoy the remainder of my weekends.
Call A Friend
If you’re not terrified of phone calls like me, pick up the phone and call a pal. Pop out for a coffee and some cake and wile away the hours. Or have someone round to hang out at home, if going out is a little much.
Finally, motivate yourself by using the blues productively. I’m not sure about you but for me, I wave the blues away by getting productive. Of course when anxiety gets the best of me – as it did on Wednesday… and Thursday… and Friday… – that isn’t always possible, in fact I ended up spending those days not moving a muscle for several hours. Often my Sunday blues revolve around me feeling less than good enough about things as mundane as my wardrobe or my Instagram feed, but sometimes it extends to my business. Making grand plans to counteract that can ease self-doubt Sundays. Currently I’m feeling less than great about my business and so to beat that, I’ve made a one-month plan to tackle that, including organising shoots, ordering stock, setting a day aside to analyse my data.
And breathe! I hope you’re feeling as blissfully relaxed as I am after this oh so handy cheat sheet post 😉